January 17, 2005
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Step Ten of Twelve
“10. We continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.”While I was watering my plants Sunday night, I was doing a tenth
step. I don’t ordinarily set aside a particular time for step
work, I just do it when the spirit moves me. The tenth step is
one I do almost constantly, examining my behavior and motives.I had posted my previous blog, then talked to Greyfox about it after
his gun show was finished. After that, I did the law search he
suggested and posted my update. As I watered the plants, I
thought over what I had written. I realized I’d done a couple of
things wrong.First, I said I hate all lies. That’s not true. I knew at
the time it wasn’t true, but just as sometimes in fear or frustration I
forget I’m enlightened, that time in my indignation I forgot how I
really feel about Immanuel Kant’s Categorical Imperative. I’ve no
excuse for forgetting, either. Greyfox reminded me of it recently.He had read me (on the phone) a quotation he thought I’d appreciate:
“Truthfulness in
statements. . .is a human being’s duty to everyone, however great the
disadvantage to him or another human being that may result from
it.”–Immanuel Kant, “On a Supposed Right to Lie from Altruistic
Motives”I liked it. I’m somewhat of a fanatic about telling the
truth. I even disapprove of parents scaring their kids into being
“good” with the Santa myth. I asked Greyfox to post the quote so
I could copy it into my favorites list. He didn’t get that done
right away, so I went to Google to look for it for myself.
Finding it wasn’t easy. Kant wrote in German, I think. No
matter what the language of the original, that word one translator
rendered as “altruistic” has also come out as “humanitarian” and
“benevolent” in English.If I’d found the quote quickly, I’d have copied it and posted it in
ignorance. As it was, before I found the quotation I found its
larger context and decided the quote wasn’t one of my favorites after
all.It started with Kant’s Groundwork of the Metaphysic of Morals,
in which he described his theory of the Categorical Imperative:
“Act only according to that maxim by which you can at the same time
will that it
should become a universal law.”One of the first major challenges to Kant’s reasoning came from the Swiss
philosopher Benjamin Constant who asserted that since truth
telling must be universal according to Kant’s theories, one must (if asked) tell a known murderer the location of his prey.This challenge occurred while Kant was still alive and his response was the now infamous essay On a Supposed Right to Tell
Lies from Benevolent Motives. In this reply Kant argued that it is indeed one’s moral duty to be truthful to a murderer, a
statement which seems to contradict Kant’s earlier assertions that his moral theory is the one that people practice
subconsciously anyway. The scholar Paton, usually a great Kant fan, has called this letter a temporary aberration, and the
petulant reply of a 73 year old man.(from wikipedia.org)Those few words that Greyfox quoted me from the essay sounded good,
but the more I read of the essay the less I liked the idea, and the
more I recalled of my original response to Kant’s Imperative when I
read it as a teenager. I
don’t suppose I’d reveal the location of an intended victim to someone
intent on killing him, even if by lying I incurred legal liability for
his death in the event that the guy had meanwhile left where I thought
(and refused to tell the killer) he was and had gone somewhere that the
killer would run into him. I’d keep my mouth shut or perform some
form of prior restraint on the potential killer.It’s a far-fetched scenario and largely irrelevant anyway to my own
personal view of the categorical imperative. I have often said
that I won’t lie to my kid, my friends, my readers or myself about
anything, but I would readily lie under oath in court to keep someone I
don’t consider a menace to society out of jail — for example, for any
of a host of “victimless” crimes such as possession of marijuana.
How I feel about jail is, I suppose, stronger than how I feel about
lying.I hereby retract my earlier statement that liars are the lowest form
of life. I think that title goes to some unicellular organism or
maybe a mycoplasm. I was definitely using hyperbole there.
My bad.My other bad move was in forgetting in the heat of the moment that
I’m enlightened, that it is equally unevolved spiritually to take
offense as to give it. I choose to forgive the liar for the lies.I feel ever so much better now. I just hope I can call off the Old Fart before he wreaks havoc.
Comments (9)
your bad.
My sister says she knows too much, but I never lie to Jess. If she asks, I tell her.
Sometimes I’m too honest. I think that the times that I’m not are primarily the times when I am not honest with myself. It happens. Growing up, a liar was considered worse than a thief, in my family. I’d like to be spiritually evolved enough not to take offense. How did you do it?
I never knew about Kant’s Imperative before – you always seem to teach me something new.
I’ve found that in the instances where I’ve been most tempted to lie, and given in to that temptation, trouble has followed. I’m thinking about lies to save somebody’s feelings, but the somebody in question really needed to know the things which I withheld from him. That’s not to say that I’m wholly against lying… just something that came to mind.
I think some of that twisted my brain around a little, but I’ve got the jist of it and I think I agree with you. Especially with that bit about lying to kids. Randy tries to do that sometimes (I think his parents did the same) and I go apeshit on him every time.
Maybe it would’ve been more accurate to say that you hate when people lie just to get their kicks by being mean/spiteful/hurtful to others.
equally unevolved spiritually to take offense as to give it
Thanks for writing this for I was very “unevolved” Friday and allowed myself to be verbally abused. Had I merely ignored the abuser, I would have been less stressed. As it is, I am still suffering the aftereffects of it in my dreams. I am struggling with the forgiveness. It is very hard.
Hi sweety–glad you laughed at my blog, sorry you choked. Actually, I thught that was a particulalrly good line myself. On to business.
I put $400 in our personal joint acct, $200 in my personal acct (to cover Palmer Lions Gun Show and next years Wasilla High Gun Show). Paypal voided the transfer–some Homeland Security bullshit, I reckon–because the account you wanted to make the transfer to was not in your name. Maybe I should put your name on the account so you can make Paypal transfers in the future. I took advantage of BudK’s free shipping offer–boy did I ever!–a $400+order, charged to my Platinum Visa Business card (gee, I love saying that, makes me sound like a real businessman.)
Our man Charlie ended up in 7th place in the race, in the money, I think he got $5000–actually, that’s a guess, 8th got $3500. “In the money” went down, I think, as far as 15th place.
I will talk to you tonight, and expect to hit the Wasilla Lib comp later today, so I may be making an xgram update. I hope the winds die down by then.
hello… long time!
I love the quote from Kant. I actually read a great deal of his work earlier last year for a Philosophy class.
10th step… ugh.
I am struggling so much right now. Its hard to even begin telling the how and why of it. I’m finding the 10th step difficult with my relationship. In fact, I’m just finding my relationship difficult period. Sometimes its hard to know what is right what is wrong- and what needs to be left wrong so that I am not right and the peace is kept.
When is sacrifice approriate and when is it healthy.
I need to talk with more women on the issue. I’m going to try to write about it… I feel so resentful inside, and disappointed, frustrated and angry… with myself… and with him.
I’m sure I could learn alot from someone like you. I should read more often and listen.
ad an ‘un’ before the healthy above ;o)