June 14, 2004

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  The dialogue with Rachel continues.

  Ha, you are
  funny. Look I didn’t think it would offend you that I use poor english,
  and that I don’t spell things right. Let me put it this way, I don’t
  mean to offend you, because I don’t know you, and I don’t know what
  makes your tick. By the way, the name was Dudeyourgetinaduck. Good
  memory.

  Rachel, your spelling and your tenuous grasp on the English language
  do not “offend” me (“cause to feel resentment or indignation; 
  strike with disgust or revulsion; or hurt the
  feelings”[Onelook]).  If anything, the evident fact that you’ve
  been promoted to the eleventh grade appalls me (“fill with apprehension
  or alarm; cause to be unpleasantly surprised” [same source]).  Not
  your fault, I know. 

  I’m not even offended by your apparent resistance to following my
  suggestions that you read various webpages I linked for you, and to try
  to think for yourself.  That’s your prerogative, and no harm can
  come to me through your decisions.  I said that you could “at
  least” learn to spell “psychic” if you intend to go on using the
  word.  That seems a reasonable enough expectation to me.  You
  wanted me to teach you to BE a psychic, so what’s wrong with teaching
  you to spell it? 

  I also indicated that I thought your careless use of the language
  and your choice not to proofread what you write before you post it is
  inconsiderate of those who then try to read and make sense of what you’ve written.  I stand
  by that, but I’m not offended.  It takes a lot more than such
  petty stuff as a little bit of inconsideration or disrespect to offend
  me.

  I do wonder if in fact, as you say above, your not knowing me is the
  reason you don’t mean to offend me, and if I can be safe in inferring
  from this that you would willingly offend me if you knew me
  better.  If so, it must really be a trip being one of your
  intimate friends.  (about like being one of my intimate
  associates, now that I think on it)  Don’t get me wrong
  here.  I don’t really
  think that’s what you meant.  It’s just what you wrote. 
  And you didn’t stop there.  In this entire defensive comment, you
  dug a big hole for yourself and jumped in.    A critique
  of it is like shooting fish in a barrel, too easy, no challenge, no fun.

  Instead of a critique of what you said, or before I get on with that
  critique, let me tell you a few things about what you meant to
  accomplish by it.  You were defending yourself.  That
  indicates that you felt you had been attacked.  In that, you were
  mistaken.  I criticized the schools you have gone to and the
  education you’ve received.  I made some disparaging or derogatory
  comments about some of your behavior and the sloppiness with which you
  try to communicate.  Although you might identify with your
  behavior, I know that what you do is not what you are.  I would
  never try to change what anyone IS, and I probably will never stop
  criticizing and making suggestions to try and improve behavior.  I
  am continually working on my own behavior, but I know that it’s
  absolutely pointless trying to change what I am.

  My behavior, this pattern and style of communication that I have been
  working so hard to develop, tends to elicit more defensiveness in
  others than does the style most people choose.  That’s not my
  problem.  Most people would back off, say they’re sorry, try to
  placate or reassure the one who took offense and went on the defensive,
  but that’s not my style.  It’s not at all therapeutic or
  productive.  It would be a manipulative mind game, and I refuse to
  play.

  You were correct, in that later part of your comment we haven’t gotten
  to yet, where you said I have more years than you, “education and
  living wise”.  One facet of that education is an in-depth study of
  psychology.  I trained and worked as a counselor.  One of the
  things I was trained to do was recognize defensiveness.  To a
  psychologist, defensiveness is an indicator of an area of the client’s
  psyche that needs “work”.

  We only defend where we feel “weak” or where we know we’ve gone
  wrong.  Someone who feels wholly “right” about his behavior, who
  has flawless self-esteem, will never be defensive.  One of the
  little axioms in psychology is that there is an inverse correlation
  between self-esteem and defensiveness.  By zeroing in on
  defensiveness a counselor can help a client gain insight into areas
  where denial is blinding her to the source of the problems.  You
  may not have realized when you asked me to teach you to be psychic that
  you were signing on as my counseling client, but that’s the way it
  works.  One of the necessary prerequisites for effective psychic
  awareness is self-honesty.  To get to that we must get past denial
  and defensiveness.  We don’t do that by pussy-footing around them,
  but by confronting them head-on.  

  Believing in being psychic is like me believing in any other thing.
  I was taught that all that stuff was bullshit, and I want proof to know
  that it is true.

  No one else can give you that proof.  You must prove it to
  yourself.  Previously, you said that you were a “see-er to be a
  believer.”  You stepped into a very sticky trap there, when you
  blindly accepted what someone told you, “seeing is believing.”  You didn’t have to see that before you believed it, and after you believed it, it was too late, you were metaphysical toast by then. 
  Yes, it’s a tough trap, a very sticky belief, but many of us have
  transcended it, gone beyond it and realized that believing is seeing.

   I want to be psychic, I want to learn, yes this is
  true, but I am impatient and I want instant results. I have NO idea
  about this topic what so ever, so me not having any idea is just
  something that is.

  You’ll get no argument from me on the first part of that.  Your
  demand for instant gratification stands out in flashing neon, honks
  like a klaxon and stinks to high heaven.  Not even a blind person
  could miss it.  But you have ideas, you have beliefs that run
  counter to any attempt you might make to accept and make use of your
  higher consciousness, your psychic awareness.  The irony in this
  is that if you can transcend your false and limiting beliefs you will
  have your instant gratification.  As soon as you believe you can
  do it, you will know that you have already done it.  As long as
  you continue to believe that it is bullshit, that it is.

  I asked you what you ment by We should be able to have some fun
  playing with remote viewing and such. I didn’t understand what that
  ment. What the hell does remote viewing mean? That is what I didn’t
  understand.

  If you followed the link I provided, you now know the answer to
  that.  If you didn’t, that link is still there in my previous
  post.  Even before I posted the link, if you had googled the words
  you didn’t understand, you’d have gotten more information than you
  could deal with.  Learn to use the resources at your disposal.

  Sometimes I read your writing and I don’t understand. It is like a
  good book, all the words seem like gibberish piling up on eachother, in
  one ear and out the other. Usually I read your post again, and thats
  why I usually comment more than once.

  Thank you for saying it is like a good
  book.  I would venture to suggest that the “in one ear and out the
  other” part is not the fault of the words, but of what lies between
  those ears.  As I said before, if my words go over your head,
  raise your head.  If you don’t know what the words mean, expand
  your vocabulary.  If you want to learn, then learn. 

  Learning is a kick.  It is a known, established biochemical fact
  that each time we learn something new our brains get a shot of
  dopamine, the pleasure chemical.  Don’t resist new ideas, but seek
  them out and incorporate them into your conceptual framework. 
  Every time you add another bit to that framework, you get a jolt of
  dopamine and build a broader framework for more learning.

  Please have patients with my IGNORANCE because I am only 17. You have plenty more years on me education and living wise.

  Hospitals have lots of patients and I have lots of patience.  If
  you continue to try to excuse your unwillingness to accept new ideas by referring
  to your age, before you know it you’ll be claiming you’re too old to
  learn.

  And I am willing to take the first step, I just would like to know
  what that step is. If you wrote it already, I didn’t comprehend it at
  all.

  Just in case you still have not gone back over that post and found this, I will repeat it here:

  “Before we can
  learn to make good use of our non-physical senses, we must learn to
  trust ourselves and our own minds. <<<That is step one.   Then we must learn how to
  verify and validate what we perceive.

  Rachel, thus far you have shown yourself to be unwilling to take step one, so how can you expect me to teach you anything?”

  If my meaning there is
  not clear, I meant that you believe in “luck” and other equally
  unprovable and improbable concepts, and yet you do not accept that your
  own mind may hold the keys to unimaginable possibilities. 
  Acceptance has to come first.  It’s like Yoda said:  “There
  is no try;  there is only do or don’t do.”  Trying to be
  psychic, or trying to learn to be psychic, will get you nowhere. 
  You are psychic.  After you accept that, you can start practicing
  and get better at it.  May the Force be with you.
  

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