December 21, 2008
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Most of the time, I’m more inclusive than many Xangans. I block users only for real abuse, never simply because they disagree with me or call me names. I delete my subs only rarely, and usually only if the person stops blogging for a few years or starts sending me too many mass messages. That latter behavior will also get someone deleted from my friends list, but failure to blog, or even dying, isn’t usually sufficient cause for me to delete a friend. Having the gone-but-not-forgotten friend’s picture pop up randomly is kinda sweet.
I don’t worry about stalkers, but I’m curious when I notice a new subscriber whose name has never shown up in comments. When I see that, I go see what that person’s blog is like. If it turns out to be something I want to read regularly, I invite the writer to be my friend so I’ll have that picture popping up to remind me. I did such a look-see today, and saw a blog, and a profile pic, that just sorta turned my stomach and left me with a creepy feeling. I decided to exercise my Xanga-given right and block it.
When I opened the “edit your subscribers” page, its name wasn’t there. I clicked back and forth a couple of times from the “feedback log: connections” tab to the “edit your subscribers” tab, baffled, until the light dawned and I refreshed the former. Its name disappeared. It had unsubbed from me before I had a chance to block it. *hehee*
Comments (10)
your site looks very interesting, i came across it after looking in the indigo child and adults blogring… after just recently meeting some people that told me a lot about it. anyways i subscribed, hope you dont mind! take care
So why did it turn your stomach and make you feel creepy?
@scales_mirrors - Subscriptions are free on Xanga, and anyone who minds having new subscribers is free to use features such as “friends lock” or “protected posting.” I can’t think of any reason to mind. Blogging is publishing. Readers are to be expected. Welcome.
@soul_survivor - I don’t usually even try to rationalize feelings. The name was feminine, and the profile pic was both ugly and masculine, with a hateful glare. The only post was a brief, out-of-context, and censorious quotation from Ecclesiastes.
hey girl, long time no see,, .stuff happens at times and we have to use the best venue for us,, blocking is sometimes a necessary thing to do.. and afterall, in reality the only need we need to fullfill is our own.. I would block as well if I felt uneasy.
Thanks for the comment, a saint I am not,,, mentally challenged may be the better word to use!! merry Xmas Susu
There were a few really rabidly anti-Semitic individuals whom I had to block a couple of years ago but they have been relatively quiet lately. The thing that really gets me is people whom I don’t know asking to be my friend, like they have to have as many friends as possible or something. I am not a collectible!
I don’t block too many people.
Honestly though, it’s kind of weird when someone looks through almost everything you’ve ever written, and says nothing. Weirdness.
“i am not a collectible”is great!
there are some sick people out there.
@butshebites -
“I am not a collectible!”
Thanks. That is going to be my explanation why (the “other” menu option), next time I decline one of those invites.
@TastyAnonymity - I can think of several reasons why someone might read all your stuff and never come out about it, and some different reasons why someone would do that with my stuff.
Sometimes I read an entry or two and don’t comment, when I don’t have anything to say, or not anything that would make any sense or have any relevance to the writer. Usually, I can find something to say.
Well just to let you know…I am new to the site…I am still learning my way around…I friend you and subscribed after a friend that invited me here recommended you…when I read the blog he suggested I knew I wanted to keep up with your writings…I usually can find something to comment as well, but not always…and i also go thru spurts of reading and then nothing at all…I hope you don’t mind…
@light_n_darkness_1 - No, I don’t mind. My own reading goes in spurts. I write more consistently than I surf other blogs. I don’t think any of us is obligated to comment when we read, but I know that some people would disagree with me on that. Welcome to Xanga. As I always say when I do the Xanga Welcome Wagon thing: “Just be yourself and blog.”